You have probably read the title of this post and are thinking “I just shelled out thousands and thousands of dollars for my vendors and now I have to tip them??” Well the answer to that question is–probably. Most vendors already include a tip in their contracts, so make sure you look that over before your wedding. If you see that tips are not included in your contracts you might add them to your discretion. Also make sure you prepare the day before. Have the tips ready in separate envelopes and put someone in charge to give them out at the end of the night.
If you have a Wedding Planner they are typically not expecting a tip. It’s up to you whether or not you think your planner went above and beyond to make sure you had an amazing wedding. A cute way to say “Thank You” to your planner would be a nice bottle of wine, or gift certificate (no more than $100) and a hand written “Thank You” card.
Your Hair Stylist and Makeup Artist do expect to be tipped at the end of their service. Think of it like you went to a restaurant. You tip your server, unless they were extremely horrible. With your stylist and makeup artist, you would want to tip them between 15-20% of the final bill.
If you are having your ceremony in a church or synagogue that you frequent, a donation would be better than a tip. A sizable donation of $500+ is recommended. If your officiant is not part of your church or synagogue then a tip of $50-$100 is fine.
The wedding photographer and videographer are an important part of your big day. If the photographer and videographer are not the owner of the company, then you should tip them. Typically a tip anywhere between $50-$200 a vendor is acceptable
The wait staff at your venue are there to make sure that everything runs smoothly and properly. Ask the venue first if they allow you to tip the staff. Once you get their permission you should tip the bartender and waiters anywhere between $20-$25 per person. If you have a coat check, tip that person $1 per coat, and valet should be tipped $1 per car.
The music at your wedding is so important on whether or not everyone has a good time. If you decided on having a band, the tip should be $20-$25 per musician. If you had a DJ they should typically get between $50-$100.
If you had a limo or shuttle, you should tip the driver depending on if they showed up on time and didn’t get lost. If they did everything right, you should tip them 15-20% of the total bill.
Remember each of these people were there to make sure that you had an incredible wedding. Show your gratitude whether it be with a nice tip, or a hand written “Thank You” card. A little kindness can go a long way.
For more Wedding Etiquette check out this great blog on what each member of the bridal party does.